Stop Feeling The Guilt - Balancing Work And Being A Mother By Susan Chadwick At Isnare.com Ezine Articles

Progress is such a “Catch 22”… For hundreds of years women fought for equality on every level - from the home, to the voting booth, to the work place. Now that we have come so far, we are beating ourselves (and others) up because most of us HAVE to work, and yet we worry that not being a stay at home mom is somehow depriving our children. Why do we do this to ourselves? Who says you “can’t have it all?”

Stop the guilt. Stop beating yourself up because you have a job, and it pays the bills and puts food on the table. Stop beating other moms up who take the normal 3 months off, or less, and then come back to work while their little one is at daycare or with the father. We are doing ourselves no good here.

Think about it this way. The majority of us grew up with working fathers. If your father was like mine, he worked more than 40hours a week on a normal basis, for his entire working career. And yet I still felt loved, and still felt that I was an important if not vital part of his life. Sure, there were times when he had to go back to work after taking a week off for summer vacation, and we whined about how we didn’t want him to go back to work. But we didn’t want to go back to school either, so how far did that thought get?

In today’s world, a 2 working parent family is the norm. The majority of us have grown up with both of our parents working. Most times it is out of necessity. But there are some who genuinely like working, and feel that they contribute to society by doing so. One must realize that there are stay at home moms who also feel “guilt”. Maybe they left a prominent, well-paying job to stay at home with their child, and maybe it turns out to be not as easy as they had thought. There is PLENTY of guilt to go around.

Just remember that when you get home from work, those hours remaining in the day are precious. Spend them doing valuable things with your child. Go to their events, read with them, listen to them. You are obviously providing for them in the material sense. Balancing that with the one-on-one time is just as important. You are not only helping yourself out by stopping the guilt, but you are making yourself a better parent at the same time.

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