Take A Look At Yourself By Monica M Burns At Isnare.com Ezine Articles

Take A Look At Yourselves.....To Find The Answers To Healing and Recovery For Others.

There are many, many illnesses, disorders, and diseases plaguing the world right now. Often, some people are quick to judge others who have “their issues” with the above- and they fail to research and find the answers to what the underlying causes are, that led to what is now the destruction of their lives.

Some of us will reach out to those in our lives that need our special attention, because we want so desperately for them to clean up their acts. We preach and we talk and we preach some more to no avail. We begin to wonder if our words are falling on deaf ears; or if we are articulating accurately the message that we are attempting to convey. The truth is.....”If they are not willing to change at that particular moment in their lives, your words have no merit or affect on them right now.” This results in frustration for you because you are trying to provide assistance, which ultimately leads to judgement. You become angry and you start to make negative statements that you never think twice about. They hear what you are saying quite clearly, but if it is negative communication...this pushes them farther into their dark worlds of addictions and illness.....”their issues.”

To you.......”their issues”don’t seem all that serious. You think that they are just acting out and looking for attention. Ask yourself this question....”What could have happened in their lives to make them want to self-destruct in the first place?” A happy person is not just going to go and start doing drugs, drinking alcohol, self-mutilating and self-sabotaging. There is always a suppressed and sometimes traumatizing situation or event that lead to their behaviors during childhood such as:

❏ They weren’t shown any affection as a kid
❏ Their parents probably didn’t spend a sufficient amount of time with them
❏ Their parent met a new love interest and the kid was neglected
❏ The kids witnessed their parents abusing drugs, alcohol, or both
❏ They were abused as kids
❏ They witnessed their parents being abused
❏ They suffered the death of parents or siblings

The list can go on and on , but you get the point. Notice I wrote kid, even though, we are speaking of adults.... but they were kids once upon a time, and at that stage in life is where the seeds are usually planted. As a result, “their issues,” more often than not, stemmed from their childhood and upbringing.

“Before you judge anyone with an “issue”.....why not take a long look into their lives first, so that you can better assist them. And while you are looking...take a long look at yourself. It doesn’t matter whether you are a parent, their friend, cousin, sister, brother or whatever the case maybe. Step back and take a look at their past, before you attempt to access their present state. There is always an underlying cause involved with any “issue” that one may be suffering with. The first step towards a fulfilling life for them, is for them to confront and acknowledge “their issues”...... to make time for recovery and healing.

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