A Woman's Need For Community

In order for women to feel beautiful, they need to discover who they are, find a way to express who they are, and then (and this is critical) be recognized in community for who they are. From what I know about the indigenous, and what I have seen in my own world, it seems that the cultures which offer this feminine expression and recognition flourish in product, home life and community joy. And the cultures that don’t, go to war.

Finding community in a world of options.

There is a strange phenomenon these days. There are hundreds of thousands of listings of single men and women seeking lovers on the web, and many can’t find even one they like. There are a gazillion communities available to us (at least online), but only a few speak to us. Why is that?

Overall, I think it is the reflection of where our culture is on the hero’s journey as a whole. Lots of people are really meant to be out on their own, finding their own way, and that is right for their journey (hence, no one really feels right, because alone, while painful, feels more right). Likewise, there are so many options for different communities because so many individuals have made the journey, caught a vision, and are attempting to complete the return by bring their valuable insights to the world.

Where do you fit?

The beauty of a community like that wherever you are, and whoever you are, you fit. Ken Wilbur’s Theory of Everything (no quick read, but a very worth one) tells us we are all whole, even as we are part of bigger and bigger “whole” systems. Some models of community really get that, and in getting it, it works.

Everywhere I go, women from all walks of life, levels of education, and areas of interest tell me that they want to find women like themselves to commune with, but don’t know how. I tell them, if you are out there, they are out there.

Here are a few very practical suggestions.

If you want to visit one of my favorite tribes of awakening people, visit www.zaadz.com. It’s free, like the teenager’s wild zone MySpace, but for the spiritually-minded adult. You can find me there by going to the website, creating a free account, and inviting Robin Rice to “be my friend”—I’d love to hear from you.

You could also visit www.PeaceXPeace.org, form a circle of women in virtually any area of interest (from quilting to marketing), then connect with a like minded circle from, say, Africa. Or some other part of the world. The organization has hundreds of translators, and it is completely safe so women who live in countries that offer less freedom to speak can do so in confidence. There are some 250 circles now, and because it is a good model, that is only going to grow.

Imagine Yourself…

Imagine yourself taking your place in a circle of women who have the kind of visions you do. Also imagine others joining you to fill empty spaces where no one has yet found a strength. Imagine serving these women on a beautiful tray, offering them your bounty. Imagine them accepting, thanking you, then taking a turn in serving you. Imagine you thanking them, and the circle complete.

Send this “imagination” wish out into the universe, and remember that every wish is heard. Keep imagining, keep wishing, and keep taking action when an option for action arises. They will come.