Can Remarriage Be A Success?

You need to be more cautious because the failure of your remarriage could break you down. I once had a friend who was married for six times out of which twice she was remarrying her ex. Every time her marriage ended in divorce she would be sad and when her remarriage failed she would be devastated.

I am not against remarriages. In fact, it might seem wonderful getting back to your ex for religious reasons and for the sake of your children. But basing your remarriage on these reasons rather than true love is a mistake that most people commit which subsequently leads to a divorce.

Reasons for Failure of Remarriages

Statistics reveal that more than 60% of remarriages end in divorce. In spite of knowing the pain that a divorce causes, why do people commit the same mistake again? Researches feel that remarriages usually fail because a lot of times the decision to remarry is taken out of an impulse. Instead of coping with the pain of separation and trying to get over it, they find it easier to succumb to the temptation of renewing the relationship without thinking about sorting out the differences. Hence, when the problems resurface again, it inevitably leads to divorce.

Remarriages also lead to divorce when the couple marry for the sake of children, for better financial position, religious reasons, or just because they are unable to find another partner. Unless the reason for remarriage is love and the couple have found a way to work out the problems, a remarriage cannot succeed.

Celebrity Remarriages and Statistics

If you feel these statistics are highly exaggerated, let me quote a few real-life instances which will indicate a high probability of failures in remarriages.

We are all aware of Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor marrying twice and both the times it ended in a divorce. Also, when Eminem remarried his ex-wife Kim, the remarriage did not even last for 11 weeks. Another similar story is of Melanie Griffith, the golden globe award winner and Oscar nominee, who married her teenage sweetheart Don Johnson twice. Unfortunately, both the times the marriage ended in divorce.

These are just a few instances that highlight the importance of considering all odds before opting to remarry your ex.

Getting Lucky the Second Time

But do not get disheartened by these figures. You can still fall in the category of 40% of couples who are able to work out miracles the second time. Let us see a few things that these couples carry out and understand how they turn their first divorce to their advantage and lead successful married life the second time around:

Before remarrying, these couples speak out the problems that broke their marriage the first time. By chalking out ways to avoid these mistakes, they are able to lead a successful life on remarriage.

These couples learn from their previous experience. Hence they avoid the mistakes they committed the first time and lead a smooth life.

They also know what to expect out of their spouse and what not to. This helps to avoid disappointments in remarriage and reduces difference of opinion between them.

With age and experience, they are now more matured to handle the relationship than they were first time around.

Making the Right Choice

Just because your friend’s remarriage ended in divorce, do not assume that if you remarried you would face the same fate too. The success or failure of a remarriage varies from case to case depending upon a number of factors such as commitment from both the parties, willingness to work out the differences, etc. Above all, you need to accept your mistakes and rectify yourself in the relationship before expecting the same from your spouse. With sincerity and mutual effort from both the parties, you can definitely turn your remarriage into a success and lead a more exciting life than the previous one.