The Reasons Why Older Babies Cry

From the age of about three months, babies become more aware of their surroundings and start to be much more communicative. By now you are likely to be able to recognise your baby's distinctive cries, for instance when (s) he is hungry, tired, or needs changing. However, now your baby will cry from boredom, anxiety, frustration and teething. Whilst identifying the cause of your baby's crying will again require a process of trial and error, the following may be of help.

Boredom

Make sure that your baby has a selection of interesting toys within reach. Spend time with your baby just talking or playing or reading from a storybook. Singing and music can also be fun.

Anxiety

Your baby may cry if (s) he fears separation from you or in the presence of strangers or if (s) he is in a strange place. Always be supportive and never make fun of your child's fears. Reassure your baby with soothing words in a gentle tone of voice and cuddle him or her. When you are separated from your baby, reassure him or her that you will come back soon. Whenever possible, try to make frequent appearances to reassure your baby that you are nearby.

If you have to be away from him or her for longer periods (for example with a child care-r when you return to work) then take time to make sure that your baby is used to the new environment and the new care-r. If possible, try to prepare your baby for your being apart by starting with short periods at a time and gradually making them longer. Make sure that you and the care-r are patient with your baby's anxiety .Do not show any frustration or impatience. If (s) he has a comfort object, such as a toy or blanket, make sure that (s)he has it when you leave. When you return give your baby extra cuddles and plenty of soothing talk.

Frustration

Your baby will cry when they want to do things that they are not yet able to or when they do not get their own way.

Make your home as childproof as possible to allow your baby to explore in safety without you having to fuss around with moving things out of the way.
Try and have a favorite or new toy or game to hand to distract your baby when (s) he becomes frustrated. Offer help when (s) he needs it but don't completely take over - allow your baby to feel a sense of achievement. If your baby simply wants his or her own way, it is important to decide for yourself whether the issue is an important one.

A good rule of thumb is only to assert your own will over those things that are really important and not simply because you prefer things a certain way. When you do decide to assert your will then do not change your mind or this will confuse your baby and make him or her less likely to do as you wish next time. Provided the baby is safe then tantrums are best ignored when possible.

Don't shout at your baby and don't punish him or her afterwards. Explain in a reasoned way why (s) he cannot do whatever it is they want to do. Although (s) he will not understand what you say at first, your baby will understand your tone of voice and will learn what you mean.

Teething

When the teeth are coming through the gums become swollen and red. Your baby may also tug on their ear or even develop cold symptoms whilst teething. Your baby may dribble a lot, be irritable, clingy and have trouble sleeping. Medical treatment is not usually necessary. Try giving him or her something to chew on such as a cold carrot or a chilled (not frozen) teething toy. You can also try rubbing your baby's gums with your finger or applying a small amount teething gel.

Illness or Infection

Crying accompanying symptoms such as fever, loss of appetite, vomiting, skin rash, light-phobia, is more likely to be the result of an infection. If your baby has these symptoms or if you think your baby is unwell, contact your GP or health visitor as symptoms can progress quickly with small babies.