Is My Man Cheating - Do Men Feel Sorry About It?

What does regret mean?

Regret involves guilt, feeling bad about something and to perceive it as a loss, but analyzing it from its polite point of view we find that it is used when expressing sorrow and most often to apologize or deliver bad news.

For those hurt by infidelity, the pain and disappointment are so deep that apologies as a polite expression or in its natural sense are useless and unappreciated. Thus, the ones who cheated will not feel loss, but a great pain seeing their partner down, hurt and possibly crying. Loss will occur later on, when they find themselves alone and wake up to reality.

What does he actually regret?

The loss and guilt endured by those who cheat puts them face to face with a cruel world. Robert Browning had written a poem and deciphering it we discover that the absence of the loved one has such a strong impact upon men consciousness that they suddenly wake up to reality. Then, the mistakes committed become clear and identified as sins towards God and the spouse, after which moral blame arises. Sometimes this process is purely accidental or influenced by sorrow strength, but it reveals that the man realizes his actions, fault and most importantly, that he mistakenly believed that happiness lays there. Unfortunately, without having his soulmate near, he feels lost and out of hope.

But, due to the fact that he still longs for what he did, the feeling of regret has not yet fully appeared.

Honest Regret

Even if more that 75% of the couples which get divorced due to infidelity regret it later, it has been noticed that, when men confess their evil deeds, they act naturally and avoid giving further information. This technique is a bad one from scratch, because trust has already disappeared and this behavior tells the victim that he is still stuck on infidelity, which is not always true.

An open-hearted regret offers the partner the liberty to analyze and clear up her emotions. She knows that forgiveness is an option, but this choice stays in her hands and it may be broken due to trust violation. Although everyone deserves a second chance, this decision depends and says at her discretion.

Surprisingly, a proof that men feel sorry is when they lie, and in that moment their loss is significant and painful. In this kind of situation, they hide their sins and do it because they strongly believe it won't happen again.

In the celebrity world, there are men who truly regret their bad deeds, but some act quite normal when dealing with infidelity stating that " there’s no room for sorrow. I admit I sometimes felt regret but refused myself to become imbued with it". One thing is for sure: in order to learn their lesson they first must experience regret, tough risking their marriage and happiness is not the best solution.

The above statements show that although men might suffer a lot or only in the public eye, they are capable of sorrow and regret does exist in their world after infidelity deeds. But, time is an important aspect which is able to reveal their behavior, beliefs and distinguish them between loyal and unfaithful husbands.