Get Romance Back in Your Marriage

Romance is important for your marriage. Lack of romance can drive you nuts. There are people who might take exception to this and say that romance isn’t the important if you really love each other. Romance is more than just affection and intercourse, and when there is no romance, so did the touching, kissing, hugging and other forms of affection. People dry up without affection, they dry up like prunes.

Here is the list of things you can do to re-kindle your romance and put the spark back in your marriage.

• Leave love notes: Leave love notes around the house for other person to find. You could do that with lipstick on the bathroom mirror, sticky notes all over the house, spelled out in rose petals on the bed, with magnetic poetry magnets on the refrigerator, leave a love message on the answering machine, create a ‘message in a bottle’, bake a cake and leave a message in the frosting, on the back of the cereal box, put it on other person’s shoes, on the steamy shower door, in their wallet.

• Separate work with romance: Work covers major part of our day, but you should keep the work life separate from your romance life. No more boring details about your project from work.

• Learn to accept: There will always be some disagreement between you and your partner. There will be time when you disagree with what your partner says or does in public. Instead of belittling your partner in public learn to accept their views in public. If you genuinely don’t like anything then discuss it in private.

• Dance together: Dancing as a couple can do three things. It will bring the couple closer, it can be something which both the parties can enjoy and at the same time benefit your health. Dancing also helps improve balance and flexibility, keep bones strong and can chemically lift your mood.

• Cut your power: Fake a power outage. Unplug the phone, computer, TV, fax machines, turn off the lights, and even turn off the cell phone. With nothing else to distract, you have no choice but break out the candles and cling to each other as you tell scary ghost stories or just plain cling to each other.

• Date together: Being a stay at home parent and devoting your life to your children doesn’t mean your marriage should take a back seat. Scheduling regular date nights will recharge your marriage. Set a regular date night and stick to it. Think beyond dinner in a restaurant and try to have some fun. Arrange for a babysitter so that your night should be stress free and not worried about your children.

• Show Gratitude: Gratitude is something that is often overlooked in the day to day living of a marriage. Saying thank you shows that you recognize and appreciate the things that your spouse does for you weather it be large like going to work every day or small like packing your spouse’s lunch.

• Listen to your spouse: Do you listen to your spouse? Hopefully your answer is “yes, of course, I always listen to my spouse.” But would your spouse agree? Ask him or her and listen to the answer. If the answer to the question is “no” or “sometimes”, then you have to work on this.

• Say “I love you” to each other: It is important in any relationship to tell a person that you love them. It may not always be easy to do, but definitely can improve a relationship and make it stronger. There are tons of different ways that you can say I love you to your spouse. It just takes some creativeness and thinking on your part.

• Buy a gift: Is there anything your spouse have been eyeing but not buying? Buy that for your spouse and present it as a gift. It doesn’t have to be something expensive but a token that means something to the pair of you.

• Use laughter for bonding: Watching comedy on TV with the spouse, sharing a joke or looking at old photos is a great way to get more laughter in your life. Humor is good for your health and laughing together is a good for a better bonding.

• Surprise your spouse: Romance needs work and play. Surprising your spouse will bring a smile to your spouse’s face and a little extra strength to your relationship.

• Kiss your spouse: This is the most intimate thing you can do with your clothes on and will help to maintain and build up the romantic bond between you as a couple.

• Make love more often: The more time you spend together in the bedroom, the better it will be for your relationship.