How to Get Your Ex Back - The Plan

If you’re determined that your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is the right one for you, then it’s best to get a plan together to bring him or her back. The plan isn't difficult nor is it about dirty mind tricks. Why I suggest you have a plan is because right now you are likely too scattered to think rationally about your situation with your ex.

Feeling emotional, desperate, fearful, lonely, heart-broken and stressed are all emotions that are playing AGAINST you when you want to get your ex back.

As I have mentioned, it’s important to have a well-structured plan if you want your ex back. This is by no means an in-depth step-by-step of the process but it will get you well on your way.

Now here is a simple guideline to follow that will help you get your love back:

#1 - Agree with the break up.

Being agreeable to your partner will show them that you ARE listening to their needs and you’re mature enough to handle the break up.

#2 - Limit contact.

If you’re separated, either temporarily or officially, limit how much you communicate with your ex for now. Use this time to gain another perspective on your situation and for the air to settle. If you’re still together but things are bleak, talk reasonably with your partner about what you’re feeling and where the relationship may be going. Remember although this may lead to a break up, it’s better to know now than to constantly question and worry about the outcome of your relationship. Either way you need to have a heart-to-heart with your partner and find out exactly what each of you want, and what you’re willing to do to keep the relationship moving forward.

#3 - Keep busy and re-evaluate your life goals and ambitions.

The best way to recover or heal from a break up is to refocus your life around other priorities that might have been neglected during your relationship. Use this time to improve your health, get fit, improve your finances and reconnect with friends and families.

#4 - Keep your eye open for new love and new opportunities.

As much as it will hurt to move on from your partner, it’s deadly to cling onto hope. Don’t place the fate of your happiness in someone else’s hands. Start to take control of your life and move onto better opportunities.

#5 – Re-establish a connection with your ex.

Slowly increase contact with your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend . Remember: it's very important you have a period of no contact or limited contact to put things into perspective.

There are no set number of days you should wait but if you really want a number to follow, I recommend no contact for at least 30 days, after which you can get back into your ex's life. The thing is to take things slowly! Don't jump if they show you the slightest bit of interest and certainly don't sleep with them before you're officially back together!