Top 10 Do's and Don'ts After a Break-Up If You're Still in Love With You're Ex

Does your heart ache so much you feel as if you may be having a heart attack? Do you spend more time alone and shut people out? Do you feel as though you have no appetite? Do you feel like crying when you listen to music? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are probably suffering from what we call in layman's terms, a "broken heart."

Whether it was you or the other person who ended it, or whether you were with the person at all does not affect how much or how long you are hurting. Broken hearts are unpredictable, you never really see them coming and you don't know how long they'll stay. You feel sorry for yourself, wallowing in a murky puddle of self-pity. Your best friends are the ones who see you through, dragging you out of bed, diverting your attention to more positive things. Every day you wake up wishing it had been a nightmare.

There are many do's and don'ts I like to associate with a break-up. Here are the top 10:

1. DO take a shower and get dressed to look your best. If you do run into your ex, you want to look like the person they originally fell in love with.

DON'T lay in bed for more than 2 days, because the longer you stay there, the harder it will be to get out of it.

2. DO write your ex a short and sweet text message saying that you're thinking of them.

DON'T call them every 10 minutes hysterically.

3. DO go out with your friends and have fun. Forget about your ex for awhile.

DON'T go out drinking and then call your ex. Chances are, you may not remember what you said and they may be very annoyed. (I like to call this "Don't Drink and Dial.")

4. DO talk to someone close to you to help you sort through your feelings.

DON'T bash your ex to anyone who will listen because if you do end up getting back together, your friends and family will end up hating them.

5. DO take a yoga or meditation class to get over your emotions.

DON'T play the same song that reminds you of your ex over and over again just to make yourself cry. Crying is okay, but don't make yourself cry on purpose.

6. DO burn old pictures of your ex. It's a very good cleansing ritual and will help break ties to the past. (Do it safely though, like in a fireplace.)

DON'T make a voodoo doll of your ex and stick pins through the heart and private parts.

7. DO hang out with your single friends and see what else is out there on the dating market.

DON'T make empty threats of killing yourself if your ex won't be with you. (You'd be surprised at how many people do this.)

8. DO exude confidence if you run into your ex. Your ex will be happy if you look fine and it may even make them want to get back together with you.

DON'T throw yourself at your ex when you see them, crying uncontrollably and reminding them of any promises they made to you while you were together.

9. DO go places where you might run into your ex, if that's what you want.

DON'T drive past your ex's house, call him and hang up, or participate in any similar stalker behavior. The last thing you want is a restraining order.

10. DO wait until you're calm to talk to your ex. Then you can be mature about things and not say anything you may regret.

DON'T do the "personal belonging swap" just as a desperate passive aggressive excuse to see your ex. Usually most of these belongings are something we can live without or replace for very little cost. Only do it if it means breaking the last tie to your ex, because if you do it, you will have no excuse ever to have to see your ex again.

Almost everybody has been through a bad break-up and almost everybody has survived. You can, too. If you're interested in learning more on this matter, click on the link below.