You Are Who You Present Yourself To Be In Dating and Do You Stink? How Do You Know? By J. Alanis At Isnare.com Ezine Articles

You Are Who You Present Yourself To Be In Dating

Most people are worried about what other people think about them. If a guy meets a woman, one of the first things he usually asks himself (unless he’s one of my students) is “what does she think about me? Does she like me? Am I her type?”

Most people let others define their reality for them because they simply don’t realize you can create your own reality. In the movie The Truman Show, there’s a great line, one to live by: people tend to accept the reality with which they are presented.

If you present yourself as a guy who’s scared of women, women will think of you as a guys who’s scared of women. If you present yourself as a confident guy who’s “good with women,” they’ll tend to accept you as that.

Con men understand this better than anyone. If you ever see a 20/20 or 48 hours interview with a con man, you’ll see what I mean. They concoct some of the most unbelievable tales imaginable, yet people who should know better take them at face value and fall for their con. Why are they so effective? Because, in the moment, they believe the reality they’re presenting to the mark. And because they believe it and present it (and their mark wants to believe it), everyone else does, even though a quick examination of the facts would prove otherwise.

Consider this: if you take the geekiest high school nerd, change his dress, teach him to walk, train him on my secrets, then put him in a new school positioned as the “bad boy,” everyone at the new school will accept him as the bad boy, even though he was the nerd at the other one. Why? Because he simply presented a different reality to people.
You Are Who You Present Yourself To Be In Dating

If you want to achieve power and success in the world (not just with women), then present a powerful and successful guy to the world. Walk, talk, and act as the successful do. Study the things they do, do the things they do. You will become as successful as they are, but the world will accept you a lot sooner if you present yourself that way.

Do You STINK? How Do You Know?

Did you know that women actually have a sense of smell three times more powerful than men? It’s true… and it can work for you and against you.

How it can work against you is obvious, but many guys ignore the obvious. If you go to meet a woman, be sure you’re showered, and smell clean. If she’s coming over to your place, be sure your place is clean; especially all the pee stains around the toilet. If you think there “might be” a smell, then there is, and nothing kills attraction faster than a foul odor.

Go and fetch yourself one of those scented candles, and fire it up a few hours before she comes over—it’ll make the place smell good, and almost every woman I know loves candles.

Another way scent can work against you is this: if you wear a cologne that an ex boyfriend (or abusive or gross relative) wears, then you’ll fire off an anchor in her, brining back all the bad memories associated with that scent. She’ll feel bad around you, and think you’re the reason. On a first meeting, I recommend you don’t wear cologne, just show up smelling fresh.

Here’s how smell CAN work for you. Once you know she’s attracted to you, ask her if she likes cologne on men. If she says yes, get her to take you shopping and pick out a brand she likes best. While you’re there, ask her if there’s any scented candles she really likes (I haven’t met a woman yet who doesn’t like scented candles). Then whenever you see her, wear the cologne she likes, and whenever she comes over burn the candles she likes. Presuming you’ve done a good job creating attraction whenever she smells your cologne or candle, she’ll think of YOU. That ways she’ll think about you even when you’re not around!

So the lesson is this: just make sure you stink the way she likes you to stink, and you’ll be A-OK.

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