Are You Attracted to 350lb Women? Why Not? By John A. At Isnare.com Ezine Articles

Imagine a 350 pound woman—who hasn’t bathed in a week. Now imagine she has hairy arms and legs, and a little mustache to boot. She’s missing a few teeth and doesn’t wear make up. Are you attracted to her? Probably not—I sure as heck ain’t. Why not?

The answer is simple: as men, we’re attracted to a certain set of visual cues in women. While they vary slightly from guy to guy, when we see a stunning woman we can pretty much agree she’s stunning, and when we see one who was beaten about the head with the ugly stick, we pretty much agree about that, too.

Now, what would you think if the woman I just described said, “Looks shouldn’t matter to men—they should like me for who I am.” You’d probably think she was off floating around Uranus, because there’s no man on earth who’s going to like her for “who she is.”

The same thing happens with men all the time, but they never know it. I hear men say over and over, “I don’t want to learn to be a ‘naughty boy,’ I don’t want to change my personality, I think women should like me for who I am!”

This is the exact same thing to women as the attitude of the 350 lb woman is to men. See, attraction isn’t created in women by looks—it’s accomplished by being a self assured MAN with a wicked sense of humor who knows how to “give her a good time in a bad way,” define authority in the interaction, create sexual tension for her, then slowly “amp” that tension up, all the while being “predictably unpredictable.”

A lot of guys don’t like to hear this. They want to be “nice guys,” kiss women’s butts, put them on a pedestal, buy them lots of gifts, and let the woman decide what direction the relationship is going to take. This is the male equivalent of being a 350 pound woman, because women HATE to be around guys like this. There’s no tension whatsoever. Women love tension, and make attraction decisions based on whether or not that delicious feeling is present, just like we make attraction decisions based on looks.

When I explain this to some guys they comment on “how sad” it is, or “how women are all messed up.” Oh please—this is like saying the law of gravity is soooo unfair. It’s not good, it’s not bad, it’s just what is. When you acknowledge in it, and revel in it that’s when you begin to get massive results. Relationships of all types are based on giving the other person what they want—you make her feel attraction in the way she wants to, and she’ll dress sexy for you in front of your friends, fry your circuits in the bedroom, and go out of her way to make you feel like a man. But if you don’t give her what she wants, she’ll find a guy who will, and drop you like a hot potato.

So, next time you’re talking with a desirable woman, remember to create attraction for her by giving her what she wants—not what you think she should want. Otherwise you’ll just be another 350 lb woman masquerading as a guy.

Published At: Isnare Free Articles Directory http://www.isnare.com
Permanent Link: http://www.isnare.com/?aid=371481&ca=Dating

Important Notice DISCLAIMER: All information, content, and data in this article are sole opinions and/or findings of the individual user or organization that registered and submitted this article at Isnare.com without any fee. The article is strictly for educational or entertainment purposes only and should not be used in any way, implemented or applied without consultation from a professional. We at Isnare.com do not, in anyway, contribute or include our own findings, facts and opinions in any articles presented in this site. Publishing this article does not constitute Isnare.com's support or sponsorship for this article. Isnare.com is an article publishing service. Please read our Terms of Service for more information.