http://www.isnare.com/?s=author&a=Dr.+Robert+Huizenga Marriage Dr. Robert Huizenga Tue, 18 Dec 2007 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=108028&ca=Marriage I often explain that "polarized couples" (one wants to 'talk it through' and the other hopes it 'goes away' for example) find their marriage grinding to a halt when they believe they must "work on the relationship?' Here are some difficulties typically experienced when a couple commits to "working o... Relationships Dr. Robert Huizenga Wed, 28 Nov 2007 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=123187&ca=Relationships Almost daily I encounter those entangled in a kind of extramarital affair I describe as "I Fell Out of Love...and just love being in love." The cheating or "offending" spouse has encountered someone where there are "sparks!" Here are common phrases: (to the spouse) "I love you but am not 'in love' w... Cheating Dr. Robert Huizenga Thu, 08 Nov 2007 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=108024&ca=Cheating Finding out, having your suspicions confirmed and staring at this ugly monster eye-ball to eye-ball for the first time is often gut wrenching. The impact on your feelings, your psyche, your body and how you think can throw your life into turmoil. Your body, your spirit and your mind revolts. So, how... Relationships Dr. Robert Huizenga Thu, 25 Oct 2007 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=114294&ca=Relationships Learn from these real life extramarital affair coaching scenarios. In the first section the person struggling with the marital infidelity summarizes the scenario or concern and what he/she would like to say to his/her cheating spouse. I then outline some goals that help him/her break free from the a... Relationships Dr. Robert Huizenga Fri, 21 Sep 2007 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=108470&ca=Relationships I've worked intensively with hundreds of couples over the past 25 years and, of course, you will not be surprised to know that more women than men are "open" to marital therapy and talking about relationships in general. Most men reluctantly enter the realm only if they "have to." Their marital worl... Cheating Dr. Robert Huizenga Mon, 02 Jul 2007 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=89142&ca=Cheating When you discover that your partner is immersed in infidelity, you may have a powerful need to know. You want to know the details. Maybe ALL the details. When? Where? How? How Often? What was it like? etc. No. there is nothing wrong with you. In working intimately with hundreds of people like you, r... Cheating Dr. Robert Huizenga Sat, 16 Jun 2007 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=89143&ca=Cheating Upon discovery of infidelity there is often a strong need to know the details. What happened? When? Where? Why? etc. The reasons for these questions are examined in my first article on this subject: "Infidelity: Why the Need to Know is so Strong." You have the need to know, but his/her lips are seal... Cheating Dr. Robert Huizenga Fri, 11 Nov 2005 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=17497&ca=Cheating Cheating is different from infidelity? Yes, I believe so. Signs of a cheating spouse will be different from signs of infidelity. In talking to thousands of people embroiled with a cheating spouse or infidelity over the past two plus decades, I've noticed a difference. In our society the word cheatin... Relationships Dr. Robert Huizenga Wed, 09 Nov 2005 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=17498&ca=Relationships If there is one front-and-forward excuse for infidelity it is: " I fell out of love." This usually means: I no longer feel sexually attracted to you (I'm sexually attracted to someone else, for now, at least.) Or, I need to spice my life with giddy emotional highs and intrigue every so often. Infide... Marriage Dr. Robert Huizenga Tue, 08 Nov 2005 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=17496&ca=Marriage Infidelity has different faces...and different signs and patterns. Yes, infidelity is complex. You probably know that or perhaps feel the overwhelm and confusion. Most I work with find tremendous relief, a sense of control, confidence and power once they pinpoint the situational signs of infidelity....