http://www.isnare.com/?s=author&a=Jane+Straus Self Help Jane Straus Thu, 20 Sep 2007 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=186432&ca=Self+Help Dear Jane, How can I let go of resentment towards my mother for being thin and lose weight myself? I wanted to answer this question because, even if weight is not everyone’s issue, resentment and jealousy torture most of us at one time or another. Jealousy is an indicator that we believe someone els... Relationships Jane Straus Wed, 19 Sep 2007 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=185392&ca=Relationships Dear Jane, I can get into relationships and out of them. What I haven’t done is find the “right” relationship worth keeping. What can I do to increase my chances of finding Mr. Right? While some self-help books focus on strategies to get into a relationship, anyone who has ever been in a relationshi... Self Help Jane Straus Tue, 18 Sep 2007 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=185393&ca=Self+Help Dear Jane, I know a lot of people as acquaintances but I don’t seem to have close friends anymore. Everyone seems too busy. Sometimes I’m too busy to sit and listen. But then I feel lonely and isolated. Does everyone feel this way? As a life coach for over 20 years, I have noticed that my clients ar... Self Help Jane Straus Fri, 17 Aug 2007 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=99491&ca=Self+Help Most of us have woken up occasionally to a feeling of dread or anxiety, wishing we were facing a different day ahead of us. But if this is how you feel most mornings, wishing you had a different life, you are suffering from burnout. Burnout is the result of enduring for too long and is debilitating... Self Help Jane Straus Sat, 09 Dec 2006 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=107560&ca=Self+Help What is the difference between guilt and shame and why is the distinction crucial for our emotional and spiritual health? It’s invaluable to discern the difference between guilt and shame so that we can respond appropriately in situations and can ask others to respond to us appropriately and fairly... Self Help Jane Straus Tue, 05 Dec 2006 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=106546&ca=Self+Help Do you ever feel that it takes more work, more out of you emotionally, to live a conscious life than it did to live less-than-consciously? Many years ago I had a T-shirt made with the saying, It’s A Bitch Being Conscious. I wore it on the first day of my Journey Into Ecstasy workshop intensive becau... Self Help Jane Straus Sun, 12 Nov 2006 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=100439&ca=Self+Help I read about Ted Haggard’s confession of homosexuality and use of methamphetamines, just as you probably have. And I had reactions to it just as you probably do. The first reaction I had was a sense of vindication tinged with that luscious feeling of revenge that the hypocrisy of gay bashing was onc... Self Help Jane Straus Fri, 10 Nov 2006 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=99896&ca=Self+Help How do we trust enough to trust abundance? It’s a koan or at least a dilemma. A few nights ago, a friend shared how he recently worked with his fears and limiting beliefs around money, trust, and abundance. For six years he had been “at a loss”—literally, unable to figure out why he was living in po... Self Help Jane Straus Fri, 10 Nov 2006 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=99899&ca=Self+Help I had a very busy day. I’m sure you understand--food to buy and cook, laundry to clean, clients to see, money to earn. So when I received two emails each from Amnesty International and the International Rescue Committee imploring me to contact my senators and urge them to support sending UN peacekee... Self Help Jane Straus Wed, 08 Nov 2006 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=99495&ca=Self+Help Why try to make a distinction between perseverance and endurance? In both perseverance and endurance, we may struggle at times, feel fear of failure or rejection, or worry that we are not worthy of what we long for. So the distinction between perseverance and endurance can easily get blurred. But pe...