http://www.isnare.com/?s=author&a=Richard+Lefever Self Help Richard Lefever Mon, 21 May 2007 00:00:00 +0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=152439&ca=Self+Help Deputy Dawg Days! I recently had a client that wanted to change her ‘self-esteem’. Since I have never seen a ‘self-esteem’ I had to figure out exactly what she was talking about before I could determine whether or not we could change ‘it’. Self-esteem falls into the category of metaphysical beasti... Self Help Richard Lefever Thu, 10 May 2007 00:00:00 +0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=149773&ca=Self+Help Curiosity killed that cat? I think they got it wrong. We’ve been laboring under the stifling, perhaps even deadly, weight of a botched adage. The ‘osity’ responsible for the feline fatality had to be of a ‘serious’ not a ‘curious’ nature. The suffix “osis” according to my New American Webster Handy... Self Help Richard Lefever Wed, 02 May 2007 00:00:00 +0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=147807&ca=Self+Help We’ve all been there. Nothing in our sights but nasty threats, impatiently waiting challenges, bad smelling dooms, and impossibly ugly situations. I am referring to the feeling of helplessly sailing into a paralyzing cacophony of menacing boogie-men and purple meanies just ready to pounce. There is... Self Help Richard Lefever Tue, 01 May 2007 00:00:00 +0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=146967&ca=Self+Help As a hypnotherapist specializing in a proprietary Smoke Cessation program, I field a lot of questions regarding “How much do you cost?” and “Why are you so expensive?” It amazes me how focused smokers can be on the cost of quitting, without considering the cost of smoking. Yesterday I received a cal... Self Help Richard Lefever Sun, 29 Apr 2007 00:00:00 +0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=146688&ca=Self+Help Have you ever noticed that life frequently serves, usually when we are least prepared, opportunities to make life-altering choices. Do I stay at this dead –end, but secure job, or take a chance with a new risky opportunity? Do I step out into a new relationship, or cling to the comfort of mom and da... Self Help Richard Lefever Wed, 25 Apr 2007 00:00:00 +0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=145341&ca=Self+Help Cooling off in the shadow of doubt! Can I? Will I be able too? What if I fail? You have the training, skills, and knowledge necessary to accomplish a task or conquer a challenge, but a doubt or a fear of failure keeps you from moving toward your desired outcome. Sound familiar? The Self-Help w... Self Help Richard Lefever Mon, 23 Apr 2007 00:00:00 +0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=144634&ca=Self+Help How to Make Yourself, and Others, Feel Good With your Tongue! We are blessed with a marvelous and mighty device that can, in moments, stir the best feelings, or the worst, in ourselves and in those around us. That device is, of course, our tongue. I am referring specifically to our tongue's capacity... Self Help Richard Lefever Sun, 22 Apr 2007 00:00:00 +0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=144276&ca=Self+Help Imagine your life is like a road trip. You’ve packed, you have your bottled water and snacks handy, you’ve consulted the map and, after much deliberation, you’ve picked your desired destination. You turn up the radio, and off you go. Minute, hours, days, and years go by. Soon, you’ve gone through... Self Help Richard Lefever Sat, 21 Apr 2007 00:00:00 +0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=143858&ca=Self+Help We are all very good at making ourselves feel bad. We come by the habit honestly. Think back to learning to spell in grammar school. Our tests come back from the teacher with the errors marked with red checks. A quick review of our formative years probably shows much more attention was paid to our f... Self Help Richard Lefever Tue, 17 Apr 2007 00:00:00 +0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=143149&ca=Self+Help What if you could always see the world through the eyes of someone in love? It is amazing how good we are at using our awesome brains to make ourselves feel bad! Ruminating over an embarrassing moment a week ago; beating ourselves up because we meant to say one thing, but actually said another; or j...