http://www.isnare.com/?s=author&a=Shela+Dean Relationships Shela Dean Sat, 12 Nov 2011 00:00:00 -0800 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=626695&ca=Relationships Halloween. Every year it's a challenge to be creative and accommodating to my I'm-not-wearing-that sweetie at the same time. I love creative costumes. My ex was cooperative. He once allowed me to dress him as a topless dancer. The boobs I made for him out of balloons, cut up pantyhose, and baby bott... Finances Shela Dean Sat, 15 Oct 2011 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=602537&ca=Finances Okay, I'm going to be honest. This is not an entirely original idea. It was inspired by Brenda and Gill, the most clever couple I've ever met when it comes to keeping things playful and spicy. For example, they're fond of having candlelit black tie dinners for two and they each wear nothing but a bl... Marriage Shela Dean Sat, 15 Oct 2011 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=602570&ca=Marriage Would you marry you? If you were/are single, are you the kind of person you'd be looking for and want to hook up with? Sure, we all want a partner who is our version of the Perfect 10. But truth be told, we cross our fingers that said Perfect 10 will settle for a Strong 7 and overlook a few of our l... Relationships Shela Dean Sat, 15 Oct 2011 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=602591&ca=Relationships Years ago, there was a TV commercial for Lipton soup. A child ran into the kitchen and asked his mom, who was standing over a steaming pot, "Is it soup yet?" That phrase became a shorthand way of asking if something is done. Few us as are the same person at 40 as we are at 20-it takes time to become... Relationships Shela Dean Thu, 29 Sep 2011 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=590186&ca=Relationships It was in grade school math that I first learned about reducing fractions to their lowest common denominator. I hated math. Still do. But, I've learned that "reducing to the lowest common denominator" is a great term for describing how, in human interaction, we "sink" to the most basic, least sophis... Marriage Shela Dean Wed, 07 Sep 2011 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=572626&ca=Marriage One of the coolest things about being in a committed relationship is having someone to grow old with, someone with whom you share so many memories that sitting in the rockers on the porch won't be boring at all, you'll have so much to talk about. Equally as cool is how, if you open your mind and hea... Marriage Shela Dean Wed, 17 Aug 2011 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=555157&ca=Marriage The laws and regulations that govern our life are staggeringly complex. No one, not even an attorney, can know them all. But, like it or not, your marriage is subject to a myriad of rules and restrictions imposed upon it by the jurisdiction(s) in which you live, beginning with whether you "qualify"... Relationships Shela Dean Fri, 05 Aug 2011 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=547081&ca=Relationships Remember when you and your sweetheart first met? You counted the minutes until you saw him again. You called just to hear her sweet voice. The air was alive with the snap, crackle and pop of sexual energy. You couldn't get enough of each other and you were always on your best behavior. It was easy t... Relationships Shela Dean Fri, 05 Aug 2011 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=547096&ca=Relationships Gift giving can be treacherous ground but you'll have far greater success if, before you whip out your credit card, you ask yourself these questions: Does your sweetheart prefer things or experiences? I could surprise my sweetheart with a Porsche and he'd say, "Why? I already have a car." Never mind... Relationships Shela Dean Sat, 16 Jul 2011 00:00:00 -0700 http://www.isnare.com/?aid=534990&ca=Relationships You’ve been told it’s death to your relationship but I’m going to give you three reasons why, when done right, keeping score is good for your relationship. 1. It’s a human nature “lemon” so you might as well make lemonade. Mother Teresa and Gandhi aside, we all keep score. It’s human nature to notic...