You rushed to end up your love story and gave up on a relationship that was quite satisfying? Then, it might be the right time to resort to the emergency solutions needed to save a relationship. Analyze the situation carefully, make sure you wanna do this and act fast!
It must be recognized, though, that sometimes rush is not indicated, especially when we talk about break ups. Therefore, for minor reasons, we choose to forego relationships that posed us too much trouble and then we regret the mistake we did.
Before reversing the decision you have taken, try to analyze the situation. Make a list of the pleasant things related to your relationship pleasant and one with the not-so-pleasant things. Then, try to evaluate the relationship and see if your lover garnered more positive points than negative ones.
Try to answer some key questions, such as:
- Do I really miss him or do I just miss the pleasure of a relationship?
- Is he still thinking of me?
- Can I stand the idea of seeing him changed?
- Am I able to take back my decisions for him?
- Is it worth getting back with him?
After you have answered these questions, read your answers carefully (you better respond in writing as large as possible) and observe the real motivations behind your desire.
If you have carefully analyzed the situation and concluded that you were wrong when you decided to break up with him, then it's time to take action.
You'll have quite a lot of work, you need time and energy to convince him to return and the decision (unless the case in which he is eager to re-bond the relationship). The best tricks to be reconciled are also the easiest. Here are a few of them:
1. Tell him you're sorry
Try to apologize and explain that the reasons why you decided to end the relationship were quite puerile. Tell him what led you to to make such a hasty decision. The words of apologize have more power than you think.
Give him time to analyze the situation. Do not expect him to be happy and welcome you with open arms after the first phone you give him. Give him enough time to get used to the idea and take a proper decision.
3. Be patient
Do not force him to answer you quickly. It's true that for you minutes minutes will seem like years, but you should think that you hurt his feelings when you decided to break the relationship. If you were not the one who ended up the relationship, you will still going to need patience anyway.
4. Treat the situation with calm
Try to keep your emotional balance around him. Don't attempt to do a scene, as the only thing that you will do is to put yourself in an awkward situation. If you overreact, you will only send him further away from you.
Convince him that the break up won't be repeated again and from now on you will assess the situation carefully before making a drastic decision. If you were not the one who initiated the split, then it's important to discuss and see what really lead to this break up.
By following these advices you increase your chances of getting back with your ex. Good luck!