Bridal etiquette can be confusing at best and alienating at worst. It can be tempting to throw it out the window and have your wedding the way you want. It is good for a wedding to be an individual, unique affair, but keeping some etiquette in mind will keep feelings from being hurt and will give your wedding structure. Here are some tips on appropriate ways to guide your guests to the wedding registry.
Traditionally, the wedding registry is spread by word-of-mouth. The bride tells her mother, mother in-law, and bridal party what she wants or where she has registered, and these people will spread the news.
There are going to be many people who won't feel comfortable asking anyone for this information, however. There are ways to let people know where you are registered without being rude.
First, however, we'll cover what is considered rude. Do not put your registry information on the wedding invitations themselves. Overwhelmingly, this is considered rude because it implies you are inviting someone in order to get a gift. If you must include a registry announcement with the wedding invitation, include it in a separate insert and not on the invitation itself. You can possibly put an information insert into the invitation with maps, directions, nearby hotels, the couple's wedding website or blog, and registry information all included.
If a guest approaches you to find out what you want as a gift or where you are registered, it is perfectly all right for you to respond with the truth. It may be helpful to put together a website or blog to direct your guests to when they ask where you are registered.
Wedding websites and blogs are very common. They are usually informative and personal, giving information about the wedding couple, the wedding itself, and odd bits of information. Commonly, there will be pages for biographies of the bride and groom and other wedding party members, information about showers and other parties, hotels and other information for out-of-towners, pictures, and registry information. There also may be stories about how the couple met, how the proposal was made, and how they are preparing for the wedding.
Popular hosts for wedding websites are: weddingwire.com, nearlyweds.com, and wedsite. They usually charge for the service of hosting your website, but also provide easy to fill templates and ideas for fleshing out your site and making it available to the public.
Wordpress and blogger.com are free blog creation websites. You could easily create a website-type blog with tabs for stories, photos, bride, and groom; or you could create a simple blog detailing why you are getting married, when, and where. If you choose to create your own website, you can also name it yourself, which gives you the option of making it an easy to remember one. Yournamewedding.blogspot.com should be easy for anyone to remember and pass on.
Registry information can be prominent on these sites, with a tab or link of its own. Directing your guests to an inclusive website like these is an easy and appropriate way to make your gift wishes known without offending anyone.
Alex Lemone is an engagement and wedding writer. To learn more about bridal etiquette
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